My oldest boy and my husband were away all weekend on a scouting trip, leaving me with my two girls and younger son. I was planning on a quiet weekend at home when both my daughters came to me begging.
“Please, Mom, please?” they asked. “Tabitha and Rebecca really want to come over. They can spend the whole day. Please, Mom?”
Not quite what I had planned, but it seemed like a good idea – IF they would include their little brother.
“We will!” they assured me, so I agreed.
The friends came over, and the girls did include Luke in their activities. They worked on the playhouse, took a walk through the woods, and looked for worms. When it was time to take the friends home, they gathered up their things, including a cup with a couple of worms.
Yesterday afternoon, one of my daughters went searching for worms again. After a while she came inside, disappointed.
“Where do you look for worms?” she asked. “I haven’t been able to find any.”
We went outside together and started digging in our little garden area. “I bet if we start weeding this spot, we’ll find some,” I told her. And we did. Tiny ones, big ones, fat ones, skinny ones – she had a new cupful of worms.
I went back inside, and she came in about thirty minutes later. “I dumped out my worms,” she said.
“We just found them,” I replied. “Why’d you dump them out?”
“I shouldn’t like worms. They’re slimy and icky.”
“You can like worms if you want to,” I told her. “There’s no reason why you shouldn’t. Some people have jobs working with worms. Some scientists like to study worms.”
I wondered, though, where she had gotten that idea – not from her friends, because they played with the worms too. Perhaps from something she’d seen in a movie? Perhaps from other acquaintances?
With homeschooling, I try to keep my children from that kind of thinking as long as possible – from believing they have to think a certain way, just because that’s how others see it. But while it was a little sad to me that she wasn’t being true to herself, her comment did open up a great opportunity to talk about peer pressure.
I hope she goes searching for worms again today.