Find Your Strongest Life, the latest book by Marcus Buckingham, is subtitled “What the Happiest and Most Successful Women Do Differently.” By the title alone, it seems like a book geared for women who are in the workforce. But what about a homeschooling mom?
I am constantly finding myself struggling to get everything done. I made the choice to homeschool my children, so I should be satisfied with that, shouldn’t I? Yet although it’s what I want to do, I feel the tug of other interests pulling on me constantly. So how should I use any spare time I may have? I make schedule after schedule for myself, trying to fit everything in — but it never does.
Buckingham’s title, then, intrigued me, so as a struggling homeschooler I jumped right in. In the first half of the book, he explains why women today are not as happy as they were forty years ago, despite the increase in opportunities. The information could have been condensed into a single chapter or two, and his comments are all directed towards women who work outside the home. But if you continue on into the second half, his insights are extremely helpful, even to the stay-at-home mom .
Buckingham has developed an online test for the reader to take to determine her personality type, then describes in detail the roles best-suited for each of these personalities. With that insight, the reader is encouraged to discover (or re-discover) those moments and activities in which they felt strong and energized. These are the moments in which she was doing what she was designed to do, the moments which create the strongest life.
Could that life be one of staying home and homeschooling your children? Absolutely! But it can also include other things as well. What I found as I assessed my current activities is that while some of them are fulfilling, others are just “filler” — depleting busywork that, while good activities for someone else, just aren’t right for me.
Buckingham also provides tips for strengthening your marriage and your children, a section I plan to go over again and again. Overall, Find Your Strongest Life is a must-read for any woman who is struggling with purpose, priorities, and a long to-do list.